OH HELL YEAH!
There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to have a real, meaningful experience with someone who is perpetually under the influence—whether it’s alcohol, weed, or psychedelics. When you're sober and fully present, hanging out with people who are altered is like trying to have a deep conversation with someone who keeps buffering.
They’re not fully there. They’re not operating on all cylinders. And yet, you’re expected to adjust yourself to fit into their distorted version of reality—which is exhausting and a complete waste of your precious time.
When you’re the only sober person in a room full of high or drunk people, guess what? The burden falls on you to keep the social dynamics from completely collapsing. You have to:
Slow down your speech so their fried brains can keep up.
Dumb down your jokes because they’ve lost the ability to process anything beyond basic humor.
Pretend their repetitive, slurred, or paranoid thoughts are insightful.
Tolerate their unnecessary giggling, emotional outbursts, or half-baked theories that only make sense to them in their altered state.
Your experience is now centered around their high, buzz, altered perception— and not anything real, nothing reciprocal, and not anything fulfilling.
One of the worst parts? You’re not even engaging with the real version of them. Whatever they’re on has hijacked their personality, turning them into a distorted, watered-down, or exaggerated version of themselves.
That deep talk you were hoping to have? It’s not happening. They’re too distracted, emotional, or fried to engage in anything real.
That fun night out? It’s now a babysitting job. Someone’s too drunk to walk, too high to function, or suddenly having an existential crisis because the weed hit too hard.
That inside joke or meaningful moment? It’s lost in translation because they’re not mentally present enough to register it.
It’s frustrating because while you’re here for a real exchange, they’re just floating through the moment, disconnected, distracted, and dulled.
Being around high or drunk people forces you to shrink yourself down so they don’t feel uncomfortable in their altered state. You can’t be too sharp, too aware, or too quick-witted—because then they’ll feel slow, lost, or paranoid. You can’t be too deep or too intense, because their brain is stuck in a loop, and they can’t follow.
Instead of having an exchange where both people bring something to the table, you end up holding back, simplifying, and playing along with their substance-induced nonsense.
Why? Because they can’t meet you where you are. And instead of them rising to your level, you’re expected to dumb yourself down to meet them at theirs.
You could spend hours with a person who’s high, drunk, or tripping, and at the end of it, nothing real has occurred. No authentic connection. No intellectual exchange. No genuine emotional moment. Just time wasted in a half-reality that only made sense to them.
You know how some people record their high conversations and listen back the next day? Most of the time, it’s embarrassing. Because what felt profound in the moment was nonsense.
That’s what it’s like for the sober person in real-time. You see through the illusion while they think they’re on some next-level wave of genius.
The worst part? They’ll never fully remember or appreciate the time you spent with them.
That deep talk they thought was life-changing? They’ll forget most of it.
That stupid joke they laughed at for 20 minutes? It wasn’t funny.
That moment when they got all sentimental and told you they love you? Meaningless.
Because it wasn’t them—it was their high/drunk self hijacking their experience. And you were just along for the ride, forced to entertain their intoxicated reality.
If you value genuine connection, deep conversation, and real experiences, being around people constantly under the influence is a dead end. You will always be the one adjusting, compensating, and wasting your energy on interactions that don’t matter in the long run.
So if you’re wondering why you feel annoyed, drained, or disconnected after spending time with perpetually altered people—it’s because you’re the only one present. Might as well be alone.
@skrdykatjunior6125
3 weeks ago